Divorce is rarely easy or drama free. But, by understanding that you and your ex-spouse ended a relationship with one another and not with your children, you’ll be better able to adapt to the new family dynamics.
The key to positive and effective co-parenting is focusing on your children’s happiness, stability, and future well-being. Cooperating and communicating makes this process far easier. Through this partnership, your kids learn that they are not responsible for the divorce and that you will always love them.
You and your ex have different perspectives on a lot of issues. When you jointly establish and follow guidelines, the kids won’t bounce back and forth between two radically different lifestyles.
They will be less confused about homework issues, schedules and activities, appropriate behaviors, consequences, and rewards. It will also curtail, “Mom/Dad let me do it. I hate you!”
You are the most important influence in your child’s life. Divorce is now commonplace, and I have seen families torn apart because of it. The children are often caught in the middle of the break-ups and bear the scars of the divorce.
No parent starts out intending to hurt their children but sometimes do so because we know of no other way to handle the situation. I will help you develop the tools to communicate in a way that makes peaceful co-parenting possible.
“Every word, facial expression, gesture, or action on the part of a parent gives the child some message about self-worth. It is sad that so many parents don’t realize what message they are sending.” ~ Virginia Satir